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Foot fetish for couples: a practical, respectful start
How to bring up a foot fetish, what couples often try first, and how to keep it comfortable for both of you.
By the Onyx Bunny team · Updated
Bringing it up
Choose a relaxed moment, not the middle of sex. Say what you enjoy and why it matters to you, and make clear that a no is fine. Many partners are curious once it is explained without pressure.
Easy first steps
A slow foot massage with lotion is the easiest start and feels good for almost anyone. From there, couples try kissing and teasing with feet, stockings or tights, or heels. Keep the first time short and ask what your partner liked.
Toys for foot play
Some toys are made for foot fetish play, such as the High-Heel Masturbator Shoe: a silicone masturbator shaped like a stiletto shoe, used solo or with one partner holding or wearing it. Use water-based lubricant, and wash and dry it fully after each use.
Hygiene and comfort
Wash feet before play and keep nails trimmed and smooth. Stop if anything tickles too much, hurts or feels off, and talk about it afterwards. As with any kink, it only works when both of you are enjoying it.
Useful next steps
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